Growing up you hear about the couple who sees each other for the first time and they have been happily married for 50+ years..How romantic.. Can this happen, sure it can….. Let me say this, to find your true soul mate you have to find that person who will stick by you through thick and thin true to yourself also.  Can you find that person who can put up with your habits and you can stand theirs? This is a big part of the soul mate factor.. Its not always butterflies in the stomach, in fact they may fly away and only come back every so often.  Love is something that you work at and people today would be fooled to think this is not the case. Their is no perfect relationship that two people do not build through hard work and determination. If you want to find your mate and grow old with them, make sure they have the same thinking and you would have found your perfect mate. Next time you here the soul mate love at first site rumor, make sure you correct them with the true meaning of what a true mate is.