Category Archives: Health & Family

Spousal Communication “honey turkey or black ham”

My wife and I are at a local Wal Mart and we decided to buy some lunch meat from the deli.  I am tired of two things, the lunch meat being gone after a few days, which I blame on my wife because she like to get the deli shreds that looks like tobacco and you pinch off half of it to make a sandwich and two, a lunch meat that is not healthy.  While standing with my wife at the lunchmeat section, I tell her I want to stay away from the shredded lunch meat because it goes too fast, she says ok, I pick up the turkey slices and she says it will go bad because no one will eat it.  I said fine, let’s go to the deli and get some lunch meat so we can get this disagreement over with. We are at the deli and trying a few samples, and I notice that the lady is getting upset at me, so I tell her I want to try one last item and I will buy it which was the honey turkey… The whole time my wife is saying the black ham is good; the black ham is good, which I am thinking ok… I understand this, but … Well, at this point, I am on a mission, and trying to get what I came for, good slices and something my wife could agree on the taste with.  She already said the honey turkey tasted was good and I saw the lady getting upset so I was going for it…  I told the lady to get me some slices of the turkey, about a quarter pound, and my wife was saying, try the black ham while the lady was cutting the turkey, I said to continue cutting the turkey, then my wife said cut the turkey extra thin… I am not understanding why we came to the deli, the whole point was to me that the mission was to get a little thicker cuts so it will not be gone in one day so I said no, we want regular sized cuts… My wife screams at the top of her lungs, you never agree with me on anything and walks off.  Great, now I turn to the deli lady upset because my wife walks off and tell her to cut it thin like my wife wants it…

Here is the difference in the way men and women thing

Men’s Views: I was the one who wanted to get the lunch meat in the first place, it was my idea, and I was going for what I wanted to cut down on store visits for lunch meat. My wife kept throwing in her opinion which is not a problem, but she could always just get what she wanted.  My wife screamed at me in front of everyone “He never agrees with me”, I ended up making her happy with the thin slices, and finally, she was mad at me because I did not get the black ham that I figured she could get if she wanted it anyway, and I was mad at her.. So you can see how I am setting there thinking what is the point to having a women if you have to agree to her every word for the relationship to be perfect and cannot make your own decisions on what you want.


Women’s Views: He did not try the black ham, I wanted thin slices, and he said regular slices.  I finally got fed up, yelled at him and walked off.


Ok, to be fair, this is what she ended up telling me at the end, while driving home… My communication was horrible.  I did not relay to her, like you have to do with women I guess, a whole scenario on why I wanted to get what I wanted other than the conversation we had about how shredded ham goes quickly, and that it was okay for her to get what she wanted as I was looking for me.  I was not trying to blow her off on the black ham, I was trying to not aggravate the lady and my wife and I both agreed the honey turkey tasted good, so I did what I told the Wal Mart lady what I was going to do and said cut us some.  Finally, last but not least, I did not tell my wife that she could get what she wanted if she would wait till I got what I thought would last longer anyway.


I wrote this to open some eyes on the different thought patterns of men and women.  Now, let’s move on to what would have worked if I would have taken an extra 10 minutes to get it all straight for her.


Before deciding to go to the deli, I should have said what I said before, I wanted to get something other than shredded because it does not last that long.  While at the deli, I should have said when she said the black ham is good, I should have said, hold on wait on the honey turkey for a minute, my wife wants to try the black ham, and I taste it with her, agree that it is good and tell my wife to get some and slice it how you want it.  I am getting the honey turkey because we both like it and I want to cut it a little thicker so it will last longer with the family.


You see how easy that was? If I were more patient and not acting the typical male by hurrying up and thinking about what I wanted to get, and spent the extra 10 minutes of time it would have taken to explain myself in detail, and let her know that we did not have to just get the honey turkey, I could have avoided the whole situation.

Joe Lovrek

A Cure for Colic

When my first Cheyenne Desiree Lovrek daughter was born, she had the disorder that a lot of infants have called colic.  This is very stressful on parents and infants alike.  I would come home from work at around 10:00pm and her mother Michelle Fonte would go to bed leaving me up with her all night.  I would try many things, from warm milk, soy formula, none lactose formula to monsonia and none of these really worked and it was 4 months of no sleep.

Years later, I had my son Zackary Lovrek and with my good fortune, he also was colic.  I thought about what caused colic “which is a very severe abdominal pain caused by spasm, obstruction, or irritation of the intestines”. After speaking with the doctor on numerous occasions and taking the input from my firstborn’s doctor, I came to a conclusion that I needed to use less formula and try something not commonly done which was to start feeding Zackary real rice cereal as a new born. I first, went out and bought a few 4oz and a few 9oz Advent bottles, the short fat hard plastic kind, not reusable bag kind.  I bought the 4oz for while he was young, and the 9oz for when he started eating more in a few weeks. I would take Gerber rice cereal and mix it with half part soy and half part distilled baby water and a few vitamin drops.  The reasoning for the vitamin drops was to replace some of the nutrients for the lack of not using pure formula. Here is what I did…

1. 4oz Advent Bottle (Hard Plastic, not disposable kind) (it is short and fat with a big nipple)
2. Gerber Rice Cereal (It can be organic, or mixed grain)
3. Enfamil ProSobee Lipil Soy (do not get too much, you cannot refrigerate to long before spoiling, so get smaller cans?
4. Baby Vitamin Drops (liquid vitamins with dropper) (optional) (but need to be flavorful, no iron taste)
5. Razor Blade or Sharp Knife (Don’t Worry, all will be ok)  🙂

1st. you get the nipple and cut an X across the top, where the normal bottle whole is in the middle of the (X)
2nd. you re sterilize the nipple and bottle together to make sure no bacteria is on anything, this also will cause colic.
3rd. this is based on your perception, so be careful.  You need to make sure you mix a little formula and more water with the rice and not make the mixture too thin, it needs to be just shy of pasty with a little thickness but can still come out of the nipple. (This is important, you do not want it to flow very well, and it could possibly cause the baby to choke)
4th. microwave for long enough to get the mixture warm, if you did make it a little runny(little), it will thicken up..
5th. put your finger over the nipple and shake very well dispersing heat evenly and then turn bottle over and give it a shake to try and get some mixture out to see if it’s not too hot.

Voila, you’re done… Now understand it will take 2-3 days for your baby to get use to the mixture, but after that… You will be sleeping like a baby throughout the night.  There were even cases where I had to wake him up to feed him..ha-ha

I hope this helps, I know it is a very stressful disorder and had to go through it enough to learn how to deal with it.

Remedies of colic are all over the internet, but they are all folklore, this really works and I am passing my secret on to you.  You may see people start passing this around on the internet later as their own, but trust me, this was done 6 years ago and people did not know what to do.. I am just now releasing my secret.

Joe Lovrek

Noticing ADD “Attention Deficit Disorder” in Children


One of the most common traits of a child who has attention deficit disorder is their behavior in school.  Have you spent days trying to figure out why your son or daughter likes to get in trouble in school but you also notice that they seem to know better, it just happens.  The next step to figuring out if your child has add is to monitor their school work.  If they have a hard time doing their school works at home, and they try and do it at school only, they are showing symptoms of attention deficit disorder. Attention Deficit Disorder can be treated using drugs like Vyvanse or Methylphenidate “better known as Ritalin”. Treatment is crucial if you want your child to function correctly in school.. Remember, it’s not their fault and medicine may be your life’s savior. I know, I was not diagnosed with Adult ADD till I was 33 and it affected me all my life.  When I went to school, I did have a hard time with homework, but aced my work while in school.

Joe Lovrek